In an ocean full of fishes, how do you make yourself stand out in a crowd? What will make you unique? What will make your dream crush pay attention to you rather than everyone else?
These are the questions that plenty of young people are asking in this day and age as more and more of the youth prefer to choose their own relationships and partners. But this new found freedom has also put immense pressure on the young people of today as they now have the responsibility and purpose to distinguish themselves in front of their desired partners and make themselves seem impressive in order to score a date.
Making an impression
The most important part is the same as a job interview: The first impression. As the old saying goes, the first impression is the last impression. Nail it, and you get a chance at a date and something beyond a simple introduction. Fail it, and it might be best to move on to other prospects than hang around with the failed first impression hanging like a cloud over your head.
While men make their own claims and several so-called studs will give you long lectures on how to attract women (their methods often seem to repel women more than anything else), science is your best friend and modern research has uncovered new and exciting ways for you to make the best first impression that gets you in the door. Who said nerds were at a disadvantage?
Using cutting-edge tracking technology that allows scientists to focus on where a woman looks when she first checks out a man, scientists are able to narrow down which of your physical features are the key to your dream girl’s heart.
You read that right! Seriously, not even the hair or your face. The good old abs are the first thing women check out. Even a flat stomach will do, but if you have the belly curve, you better hit the gym before trying your luck with women!
After the abs, the second thing women notice most about a man is the face. And yes, Many would disagree on this, but there’s more! It’s not just the fact that matters but the expression as well. Men with angry, downcast and gloomy expressions score negatively among female audience whereas men with bright, confident and happy expressions garner significantly more interest.
The Upper Body
After your smile, it’s the turn of your upper body strength of whom the best representatives are the shoulders and biceps. So make sure you can get some flexes into your gym routine if you want your 3rd best asset up to par when you enter the dating game!
What they never look at
And don’t bother trying to fluff up your package and your man bulge. Literally, no woman checked out the man’s package in the research referred to in the article so it doesn’t even matter.
But what if you’re fully clothed or in winter clothes and can’t show off your abs, shoulders, and biceps in all their glory?
No problem, women tend to note the man’s eyes the most in situations where they can’t view the full physique. Expressive, clear, healthy and alert eyes are definitely a winning case for you.
The Height Factor
The same goes for height. And yes, I know, it’s discriminatory and men can’t help what height they are. But hey, those are the rules! Try to compensate for your height with your abs, winning smile and spectacular shoulders if you’re below six feet height.
Or better yet, show confidence. How many times have you seen men with balding hairlines and short heights dating supermodels and actresses? Have you ever wondered what that guy has that attracts such beautiful women to him? It’s confidence, deriving from their success in life. The 5 foot 8 dude with the receding hair and Dad Bod has a startup that just got funded and is on his way to leading a growing tech company in Silicon Valley. His success, his confidence, and excitement for his career and his life are like a flame that draws every moth around him. Men and women all want to be around him and his glow of success.
What you can control: Passion and confidence
So if you’re feeling disadvantaged in your physical appearance, the best policy is to gain success in whatever you’re passionate about. Your success, your happiness in your success, your confidence to succeed will all show on your face and in the glow around you. And it WILL attract women to you.
The important thing to remember is that everyone is unique and everyone has their own tastes. It’s possible that you could be physically perfect, confident and successful and some women still might not find you attractive. Your best policy is to find someone who likes you as much as you like them and not make physical appearance everything. A balance between the two: Have a healthy, well groomed, self-care for physique and a good, positive outlook on life in a career you enjoy and are good at. The rest will come easy! Good luck.