The way you sleep is controlled by your sub-consciousness and thus can be primal in evaluating your personality or moods. Psychologists suggest that different sleeping positions are a result of certain character traits. Similarly, when in a relationship, these positions can also explain the attributes of a couple and the level of understanding between them. There comes a time for partners when they become comfortable enough to involuntarily assume certain sleeping positions. Their sleep cycle can be understood to indicate the strength of their relationship.
1. The Classic Spoon
A comfortable – and thus common – position, majorly assumed by couples who are through with the first 5 years of their relationship. The male holds the female from her back, as they sleep; it is an extension of generosity to provide comfort in one’s arms. The spoon symbolizes protection and nurture, sort of like safe cocoon created by one partner for the other.
2. Sweetheart’s Cradle
This is when a partner holds the other, completely entwining themselves as one. The couples face each other as they sleep in their embrace. This indicates intimacy and may occur when both of them just cannot get enough of each other. It also shows higher dependency and trust, which is an integral part of a relationship.
A trailer for the above-mentioned position is The Shingles. This is when the woman fixes her head on the man’s shoulder or chest. The nuzzle indicates great levels of confidence and a sense of protection. It is also a way of making the bond stronger, signifying a relationship open to honesty and generosity.
4. SHUT UP!
This is not so much as a pose, but a common bedroom happening. It categorizes all the annoying attributes of one partner’s sleep that may agitate the other. For example, if a person snores loudly, kicks, hogs the blanket or sleep-talks, it might disturb and irritate their partner. This is when the couple really needs to talk it out and resolve the problem by a change in habit or develop tolerance because it could easily lead to a falling out.
5. The Grab
A position where one partner spreads out enough on the bed, to hog the sheets or the covers. It is an indication of selfishness and disregard towards the victim. Even if the victim does not feel annoyed by this, it still means that there might be a lack of equality in the relationship.
6. The Cliffhanger
When the couple sleeps with enough space between them whilst keeping their back to each other, it symbolizes distance and dissatisfaction. Usually, it occurs after a fight, when the partners prefer to stay away due to awkwardness. However, if it persists, they may need to figure out the problems causing the distance as it’s not a sign of a healthy relationship.
7. Zen Style
It is said to be a position assumed by the most mature couples. When partners have an argument, they choose to express their differences through this position. They keep their backs to each other but don’t lose contact. This shows that even though they may be agitated, they still wish to stay close to each other. It shows a balanced, healthy and mature relationship.
8. The Pursuit
If the female of the couple, holds the male from his back as they sleep, it’s called a pursuit. This is basically the reverse of The Spoon. Sometimes, when a couple assumes this position, it is because the male needs care. However, it could also hint that he’s trying to establish distance or is keeping something from his partner. The female tries to ease him into opening up or clings to him in an attempt to save their relationship. The body language shows a sign of hesitation on the male’s part that can only be solved by talking it out and keeping things honest.
These positions may indicate the strength of a relationship but should not be taken seriously unless there is further evidence to support it. Should you find that they might be explaining some questionable traits of your relationship, the best way to go about it would be to communicate with your partner and find out what needs to be fixed.